LAB · MIDDLE SCHOOL (6–8)

🤝 Healthy Relationships and Communication

Navigate friendships, family disagreements, and peer conflict through interactive dialogue. Trust, respect, and communication shift in real time.

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How to do this lab — read me first!

1.Take the pre-quiz below. Type your answer into the box for each question — it's okay if you're not sure! This shows what you already know. Spelling doesn't have to be perfect, and CAPS or lowercase both work the same.
2.Read the lab sections below the quiz — they explain the science in plain words. Tap "Go deeper" on any card for extra info.
3.Work through each lab module by tapping the bubbles near the top. Read it, then press "Mark module complete" to unlock the next one.
4.Do the hands-on sorting activity — use the up/down arrows to put the items in the right order, then press Check my order.
5.Take the post-quiz. It unlocks after you finish everything above. Type your answers in — short answers are fine, just write the main idea.
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💡 Stuck on a question? Scroll back and re-read the section about it, then return and try again. There's no time limit!

📝 Pre-quiz — what do you already know?

✏️ Type your answer in the box. Spelling close enough is OK — UPPER or lower case both work.

1. Healthy relationships are based on:

2. Communication involves:

3. Boundaries are:

4. Conflict is:

5. Empathy means:

6. Active listening involves:

7. Respect means:

8. Unhealthy relationships include:

9. Communication builds:

10. Tone of voice affects:

Simulation overview

Students enter interactive dialogue simulations where they take the role of a character navigating friendships, family disagreements, and peer conflicts. Each scenario presents three response options that lead to different emotional and relational outcomes. The system visually tracks trust, respect, and communication quality as dynamic meters. Some decisions escalate conflict while others de-escalate tension and build understanding. Students are exposed to both healthy and unhealthy communication patterns. The lab emphasizes real-time consequences of words and boundaries.

Lab modules

Work through each module in order. Mark each one complete to unlock the post-quiz.

What makes relationships work

Healthy relationships rest on five pillars: safety, respect, communication, reciprocity, and repair. We’ll unpack each and meet the research that predicts which pairings last.

Gottman’s Four Horsemen

Predict relationship breakdown with ~94% accuracy in lab studies.

· Criticism (attacking character vs behavior)
· Contempt (mockery, sneering) — most toxic
· Defensiveness (counter-attack instead of listening)
· Stonewalling (shutting down completely)

Go deeper

The antidotes: gentle startup, build culture of appreciation, take responsibility, physiological self-soothing.

Three communication styles

· Passive: ‘Whatever you want’ — builds resentment
· Aggressive: ‘You always…’ — provokes defense
· Assertive: ‘I feel X when Y happens. Can we Z?’ — opens dialogue

Active listening

Most people listen to reply. Active listening means listening to understand: paraphrase what you heard before responding. Slows conflict, prevents misreads, and signals respect.

📖 Case study: Gottman lab

Couples filmed for 15 minutes can be classified as ‘masters’ or ‘disasters’ with >90% accuracy based on positive:negative interaction ratio. Healthy: 5:1 positive to negative.

Takeaway: Small positive interactions compound. So do small negative ones.

Key takeaways from this module

The Four Horsemen predict breakdown.
Assertive > passive > aggressive — but neither = the goal.
Active listening signals respect AND prevents misreads.
Ratio of positive:negative interactions matters more than any single moment.

🎭 Scenarios — what would you say?

You're the character. Pick the action that uses respectful communication.

You're Sam.

Your best friend Alex bailed on your hangout for the 3rd time without telling you. You feel hurt.

You're Jordan.

Your partner in a group project did none of their work. The presentation is tomorrow.

You're Riley.

A parent constantly checks your texts without asking. You want privacy without a blowup.

Hands-on activity: Repairing a conflict (assertive style)

Order the steps of a healthy repair conversation.

1.Pause and breathe
2.Listen to their perspective
3.Name your feeling ('I felt…')
4.Propose a forward action together
5.Describe the behavior ('when X happened…')

Post-quiz locked

Finish all 4 lab modules (0/4 done). Complete the hands-on activity above.